[Hamm Guitars]

Fear and respect.

Both will allow you to enforce your will onto your children.

Respect works incredibly well, and teaches the child the difference between right and wrong by example. It allows you to pass on skills to your child and makes them think about their actions and make choices appropriately.

Fear works only when the threat is present, and the child quickly learns that they can do what ever they want when fear is not looming. People that are controlled by fear often turn out to be 'followers' as opposed to 'Leaders'.

Then of course, there is no controll at all which is kind of like gambling with your kids life.

All just my opinion, as usual.

 

[Hamm Guitars]

If I had to pick a side of the fence to stand on I would be all for not hitting your kids. I don't hit my kids, but I also don't care if someone else chooses to use physical disipline on theirs (within reason of course), it's realy none of my business how other parents choose to reer their children.

On the other hand, it has always been taught in my family that if you are physically threatened or you witness a family member, female, elderly or defensless person being threatened then the gloves come off regardless of your chances of winning or loosing. I was also taught not to start a fight for no good reason. I've passed this onto my boys and it has allready caused some issues with the school board, just as it did when I was younger.

I guess I've been taught that you only unleash violence on bad people, and I don't consider my kids or family members to be bad people.

Spanking a child in a diciplinary manner, I don't really consider violent as long as the parent hasn't lost their cool. I always picture a spanking as something you would get when your father gets home, not an instantanious response in the heat of the moment.