This day in 1945

[Mahogany Martin]

Today, August 11th 2006, would have been my parent's 61st wedding anniversary. 61 years!! My dad past away a few years back but I think that they made it to their 56th or 57th year together. Still a long time. More so than a lot of couple will achieve today. Anyhoo I just thought that I'd throw this out there.

Do you know anybody or have you yourself been married for a long time? :food-smiley-015:

[GuitarsCanada]

I think my parents hit 54 years. My Mother passed away 2 years ago. I only made it 10 years... been divorced for 13.. so it's tough, but possible.

[Rattlesnake]

I think what's going on with society today is the fact that there is so much flavour out there to try that no one wants to commit to just one. Plus with the open concept society there are more who realize they're bi or just plain gay (which is o.k - but not my fetish), and end up straying away. Another is the lack of respect for one another. By that I mean you go out to a bar with your woman, or your woman goes out with her friends, and before you know it there's a horndog who may have or has more to offer and so she leaves your ass. Oh, and then there's the one who goes out and finds one nighters because they're bored of what they have in their own relationships. Well c'mon now I can go all day with this as i've been as honest as one can be and had been cheated on in my last 3 (3 times a charm my ass, not when she's #13). Anywho, my grandparents had been together and passed away not long after another in which they had been married over 59 yrs. They were definately meant to be. Cheers!!

[GuitarsCanada]

The old saying.. the grass is greener... ain't always the case. Many go off to seek something better, only to find out that what they had was just fine.

[Rattlesnake]

I've realized this a couple times myself!!.......my bad:) (that is breaking up with one to find better) But I still haven't cheated and feel there's no need for it!!

[Mahogany Martin]

Sounds like you’ve been on a bad streak for a while Rattlesnake. Chalk it up to experience and it’ll turn around sooner than you think (if it hasn’t already). When you ask couples that have made it through at least a few decades together, they’ll often confirm that the 10 to 12 year threshold is a tough one to go through. If you do make it through, you can (with a little bit of work) pretty much make it for the rest of your life together.

And they’ll tell you too that it has to be true and honest love. And this may be a problem today with everything available, freedom, flavors, open concept society and however you want to look at it. People have been (and still are) staying as a couple where the relationship was (is) just OK but are more willing today to take their chances at finding a better fit (“the fit”). Which is great. Only they should be more honest and willing to part ways before jumping ship.

The old saying.. the grass is greener... ain't always the case. Many go off to seek something better, only to find out that what they had was just fine.

It almost seems inevitable as the months and years go by in a relationship to gravitate to that point. A short break can be a great thing. But it’s often too hard especially in this day and age to go back to the clunker when you can almost smell the interior of a brand new car (especially if the kids are grown up or if there are no kids involved). This reminds me of a great song from Chris DeBurgh:

Much more than this.

Sometimes the man in me gets restless,
I need to get away from you,
And spend some time with someone that i knew,
Just to see her for a night,
And in the candlelight,
To talk and remember early days;

Sometimes the woman in you is uneasy,
I can see it in your eyes,
Just like me you need to know
Can you still fly,
Can you still arouse the passions
Of another man,
And if you’d carry it through, what would i do?

It would take much more than this
To break a love so long in the making,
It would take much more than talk or dreams
To break so strong a foundation - more than this;

Sometimes the man in me gets lonely,
When i am away from you,
And in the darkness of another hotel room,
If there's someone in the night saying
"it's gonna be alright" to ease away the pain of missing you,
What can i do?


Actually, one of my brother and his wife are at their 39th year anniversary this year. Not bad at all.

[Lester B. Flat]

A lot of older couples would have broken up if it wasn't for the stigma that used to be attached to divorce. The shame factor has been greatly reduced.

Also, people are getting married at an older age and have gotten a greater taste of independance and freedom before they tie the knot, which they miss after.

Most importantly, women don't need men to survive anymore!

I'm divorced.:rockon2:

[Xanadu]

I don't even have a gf right now.:frown:

[david henman]

...with the open concept society there are more who realize they're bi or just plain gay (which is o.k - but not my fetish), and end up straying away.


...i'm curious: upon what scientific evidence do you base your belief that homosexuality is a "fetish"?

-dh

[Xanadu]

...i'm curious: upon what scientific evidence do you base your belief that homosexuality is a "fetish"?

-dh
I think he's using the term loosly. It would be the same if he had said "not my cup of tea".

[Rattlesnake]

Precisely what I meant.....NOT my cup of tea!! I walk a straight line and refuse to sway from side to side..:tongue:

[david henman]

Precisely what I meant.....NOT my cup of tea!! I walk a straight line and refuse to sway from side to side..:tongue:

...same here. in fact, i was born straight. there's not a lot i can do about it. i was also born right-handed. on the other hand, i don't have a problem with left-handed folks. as a matter of fact, i see no need to even make an issue out of being left-handed. see how that works?

-dh

[Rattlesnake]

Who made an issue of what? Freedom of expression is what keeps my comments legal, so why make an issue out of that? It's not like I said I hate this and that, I just simply said "not my fetish" ie:"not my cup of tea" - I'm not judging nor discriminating against it.........So what gives?..........feeling guilty about something?:food-smiley-004:

[david henman]

Who made an issue of what? Freedom of expression is what keeps my comments legal, so why make an issue out of that? It's not like I said I hate this and that, I just simply said "not my fetish" ie:"not my cup of tea" - I'm not judging nor discriminating against it.........So what gives?..........feeling guilty about something?:food-smiley-004:

...yeah, i think i may have forgotten to give my dog a hug when i left for work this morning.

oh, wait, i don't have a dog...

:wave:

-dh

[smashing_pumpkins_06]

my grand parents are hitting there 50th in a couple of weeks